I recently asked my followers on Instagram what was something holding them back from pursuing their dreams. The majority of people responded with the word fear. Whether that be fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of finances, the list goes on.
Let’s chat about how to overcome fear when pursuing your dream.
I get it, there’s a lot of big IFs and other things that you have to overcome when deciding whether or not you should pursue something.
I think the first thing that stops us is analysis paralysis. It’s still one of my biggest struggles. What does analysis paralysis mean exactly?
Maybe you’ve experienced it and know that familiar feeling of seeing all the things that need to happen for something to become a reality. The list quickly grows and before you know it you’re overwhelmed with feelings of doubt, self-worth, and all of sudden your dream feels out of grasp.
Know that feeling and remember it because it won’t be the first or last time you feel it when pursuing a dream. It’s what we call analysis paralysis and you have to figure out what helps you overcome it. It’s what happens when we start overthinking and send ourselves into a downward spiral and as a result, we end up never taking a step forward. Don’t let analysis paralysis prohibit you from stepping into your dream. I know there is going to be a lot but let’s look at how to break those things down in practical steps.
I have mentioned it before and it probably won’t be the last time I do but this is when I log into my Trello account. It’s one of the reasons I love using Trello. I have a huge brain dump session and start typing all of the things that come to mind that I feel like need to happen for my dream to begin. From there I start organizing those thoughts into checklists and lists. I can begin to see where I can start and how to move forward one step at a time. It’s like the terrible joke: “how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.”
I will always say this about dreaming: your dream will most likely evolve and change. Don’t expect it to be exactly how you pictured in the beginning and know that’s ok. Some days you’ll hate it and that’s ok too. Learn how to pick yourself up quickly and keep moving forward. Know that these things take time and it will most likely not happen overnight. Look at that list each day and choose one thing you can do that day to keep stepping in a direction that propels you forward. Analysis paralysis is a struggle but it may be an easier thing to overcome than what I will mention next.
Fear of rejection & fear of failure.
Guess what? They are both going to come.
Don’t be afraid of it because YOU HAVE MORE GOOD to do than letting the imaginary opinions of others hold you back. You’re making up opinions from others before you even give them a chance to form an opinion for themselves. That’s not on you and you cannot control other people’s thoughts. The chances are that at least ONE person is going to connect with you and your vision. We all want that connection with someone so we can say “yes, me too!” That one person is worth it.
Fear of failure.
In my journey of navigating business ups and downs, I have learned that I never would’ve learned the things I have if I hadn’t taken the step out and said yes to something. I stopped looking at the past and seeing failures but looked at those “failures” as stepping stones to what I know now. Yes, there are still going to be obstacles that come our way. It’s going to be hard but we can choose to keep stepping forward and put in the work to grow. There are so many things waiting on the other side of fear and they are good things. I know it’s hard to take that first step but sometimes you just have to do it. I do want to advise you to be wise & thoughtful. Seek out what God has for you and ask how you can be obedient but I promise you fear is a liar. Fear is holding you back from really good things even if it is something like asking someone for forgiveness. There are always little things to celebrate so take the time to celebrate those things along the way. You don’t have to wait until the big picture is completed to do so.
Remember, you have something unique to share, and only you can share it!